Re: ‼️ Alarming testimony — I ask for your guidance
Hello Erin,
I’m writing because this case has me deeply distressed. I’m worried about what this woman is living through… Honestly, I don’t know what to tell her.
The first thing that came to me when I asked my Beloved was:
“Love does not applaud the wicked, but those who speak the truth.”
“Those who abandon the law praise the wicked; those who obey it fight against them.”
The mighty Counselor, the wonderful Counselor — this is why we don’t want to encourage counseling or reaching out to one another, or for others to rely on us. The Lord showed me that doing so is like training someone to depend on us when we cannot always be there.
Each time life becomes more difficult, horrific, or unimaginable, these are opportunities for each woman — for all of us — to draw closer to the One who truly has all the answers. He is available 24 hours a day, able to help immediately, to redirect, and to protect.
We can’t do any of those things.
Trying to “be there,” to listen, or to offer advice only reminds us how incapable we are of doing anything truly worthwhile. What we can offer — resources, books, Living Lessons, different chapters, and especially God’s Word — passage after passage after passage — can help stir a hunger to hear from Him directly. That’s what I look for in the Living Lessons and on all of our websites: opportunities to point women to hear from God for themselves.
Has she been directed to go to Crisis Corner?
These are the things that truly matter — that we equip women, not just with promises, passages, or principles, but with a relationship. She needs that personal relationship because only God knows what lies ahead.
If she’s thinking, “What did Anastasia say?” or “What does Erin write in her books?” — then we’ve failed her. We’ve done a great disservice. We’re not truly encouraging women to trust the Lord. Worse still, if they believe we have a connection with God that they cannot have, that’s a lie.
They can have that same connection.
We want them to have it.
And these are the moments when the Lord gives us opportunities to point them back to Him. Maybe He already told you this when you spoke to your husband — maybe you just needed confirmation. If so, I’m more than happy to confirm it. But I also want you to do something else:
Share this.
Let other women know — don’t trust us.
The Bible says, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength.” That includes our own flesh. Those who trust in man are doomed, but those who trust in the Lord are blessed. My favorite part of that passage says, “whose trust is the Lord.”
Please, share this message — and hopefully you’ll be able to share more from your own heart, not just from mine.
And for this dear woman walking through such a deep, dark, frightening valley — she will find Him there. She will hear His still, small voice. And when she does, may she share her testimony — discreetly, of course — about how she came to know Him in this time. Her story will encourage and strengthen others.
REPLY from the Minister: Recently, I received a message from a bride seeking wisdom in the middle of a very difficult situation. When I turned to my Beloved for guidance, no words came—only a quiet reminder of Moses, who appointed others to help care for the people, leaving the hardest cases for himself. In that moment, I understood that my Beloved wanted me to share this with Erin.
When Erin’s response arrived, I felt a sweet confirmation in my heart. I praised my Beloved, who knows the anguish and confusion that sometimes overwhelm me when His guidance seems to go against what I once believed about my marriage.
Through this, I’ve discovered how deeply compassionate and empathetic I am. My tender heart often moves me to act—to try to heal or fix what isn’t mine to fix. Without realizing it, I sometimes take on someone else’s emotional pain, trying to be their “savior.” But in doing so, I can unknowingly place their dependence on me instead of on God.
My Beloved showed me that I’ve even done this with my earthly husband—coming between his pain and the healing work of the Holy Spirit. I tried to ease his hurt before he could turn to the only One who can truly comfort him. My Beloved reminded me of how much good my own solitude did me at the beginning of my journey, when I had no human support and His presence alone sustained me. I now see that He is guiding my husband through that same process.
I’m not setting boundaries out of logic or self-protection—I’m simply obeying His voice. Sometimes it feels strange, even harsh, but I choose to walk by faith. I trust that His guidance is leading me deeper into His will. He’s teaching me not to soothe with my tenderness what He desires to heal with His presence.
Today I praise my Heavenly Husband, who teaches me with patience and love. I rejoice in my weakness so His power can be seen. The answers we seek are never found in others, but only in Him—our Beloved.
Would you like me to translate this gentle testimony version into Spanish now?
When you see a comment or post requesting prayer in your ministry, be careful to remove it, and in its place, leave a loving and gentle reminder:
"When we are hurting and desperate and reaching out for prayer, the only ONE to bring you comfort and who promises to take care of the situation is the Lord, who says He will reward you with the 'peace that surpasses all understanding.'"
This is what He says, "Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty and marvelous and wondrous things, which you do not know…things to come, things you could never figure out on your own, remarkable secrets…“ Jeremiah 33:3
Why not just keep it there so the other women reading it can join together in prayer?
Why not, as the Minister, pray in reply to the comment or email her privately with a prayer?
Whatever you allow and encourage breeds more of the same. When we nurture a woman in response to their post or privately, I guarantee it will result in no one knowing Him more personally. Instead, it will result in more women (and the woman who posts) having a greater need for prayer in comments and new posts.
What's worse is that it will rob them of His promise for a reward: "But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:6
If the post has resulted in a response, also include (and should He lead you to contact the woman privately) the links to the Power of Prayer, which is the page they land on after submitting a prayer request, which is spoken about in the RYM book and why we have a means to request prayer.
Be sure your ministry's menu includes this 🙏🏻Prayer Request🙏🏻 that's located on the bottom of the contact page—along with other helpful links. And refer to the blog post "Asking for Prayer" #RMIManual
Finally, my Husband said that since most are seeking help in their marriage, you can also share the prayer at the end of RYM Chapter 1.
“Dear Lord, please guide this special sister during the trouble in her marriage. And her ears shall hear a word behind her saying, this is the way, walk here, when she turns to her right and when she turns to her left (see Isaiah 30:21).
“Please reassure her when she sees a thousand fall on her right side and ten thousand at her left; help her to know that if she follows You, it will not happen to her (see Psalms 91:7). Hide her under your protective wings.
“Help her to find the narrow path that will lead her to life, the abundant life you have for her and for her family. Lord, I pray for a testimony that you can use for Your glory when this troubled or broken marriage is healed and restored! We will give You all the honor and the glory. Amen.”
I will never forget there was a time that I was so broken that I just wanted everybody to pray for me, that I even searched on the internet for forms to submit my prayer requests (because I would think the Lord is going to listen to other’s prayers for me and not my own and if I think about it now that wasn’t actually trusting the Lord or building on our personal relationship). I would run more to others for prayer and comfort and I remember one time running to my friend Yvonne (because I had received a phone call from my ex husband at that time, that upset me) and while running I heard the Lord say I wish you would run that way to Me, I know ouch! Now I know the Lord does answer my prayers to Him and He loves it when I run to Him with everything.
In the RMI ADM Manual, it mentions that it's important to "bridge" documents, and one of our RMI Blog Policies states to be sure to "Bridge the Source." Since then, our Commander-in-Chief, the Lord of Hosts, has continually reinforced the need for a NET.
“'Come with Me. I’ll make a new kind of fisherman out of you. I’ll show you how to catch men and women instead of perch and bass.’ They didn’t ask questions, but simply dropped their nets and followed.” Matthew 4:19
Envision there being a NET to catch those who are falling or being swept out to sea by the current wave of social trends— along with the lies we each fell into.
A single island, a post or instructions should never stand alone like an island—with no bridge to get off or connect you to any way of finding your way back to the mainland. This is why our lesson chapters now have a book, which, when clicked, can take you back to the list of lessons.
Like everything, if you're working with Him, and you ask Him, after embracing this policy, then He will surprise you with "things you could never figure out on your own" and "remarkable secrets…“ you can share with us. The perfect example is the protocol for NEW additions to one of our RMI Manuals:
Rather than just adding something new to the manual and creating a bridge with a link on the List of Content for both ADM and Ministering, this Creating a NET policy will be added to the RMIOU blog.
The blog posts may have an instructional video or screenshots, but will always include #tags, and all this will be added here—to the Manuals!
By the Word of Their Testimony
"And they OVERCAME, TRIUMPHED, DEFEATED, CONQUERED, were VICTORIOUS over him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the WORD of their TESTIMONY." Revelation 12:11
To strengthen our RMI Ministering Manual, please comment with YOUR testimony to help enlighten and confirm the policy, procedure, or protocol. If used, we will add it to our manual in blue. THANK YOU!
Answering Questions in Comments
When answering comments, always ask Him first what will encourage this bride and the ones who read these comments later.
The first thing is that we always point everyone to HIM, so they can learn to ask Him and not anyone else.
Then ask Him for a bible verse or a lesson to share with her, that will answer her question.
If you have experienced a similar situation where you had the same question and He answered you, share your testimony to encourage others.
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